Past-Life Relationships

If it's a past-life relationship it's meant to be, right? I feel so strongly about them it must be a past-life connection, therefore we'll end up together eventually. Right?

I receive different versions of these questions all the time so I thought I'd address the issue.

First off, having a past-life relationship is not unusual- you have a past-life relationship with almost everyone you interact with. There are varying degrees, of course. The most significant relationships (your family, spouse, lovers, close friends) were as significant in your past-life as they are now. And they will be karmic in nature.

But you will also have past-life connections with co-workers, your boss, the person you took that course with. All of you who are reading this probably have some past-life connection with me - there's a reason you're drawn to my writing. Maybe we lived in the same village or I was your teacher. 

My point is, anyone who has any type of impact on your life will have some kind of past-life relationship with you. We've all danced together in some way. The most personal relationships will display hard aspects between the Nodes and the personal planets and/or the angles. For example, past-life parent/child relationships often have one person's Moon conjunct the other's South Node. And the most personal relationships will have multiple, other connections between the charts. 

As the relationship becomes less personal, so do the planetary connections. The outer planets (and not much else) are featured in past-life group connections. A co-worker's Neptune may conjoin your South Node. Maybe your acquaintance's Jupiter trines your South Node or their Nodal axis squares your Nodal axis or their Saturn falls in your 12th House (most recent past life). There's not much beyond these connections because the past-life relationship was impersonal - you were neighbours or you passed each other every day as you herded your sheep and they went to market.

 Back to the personal connections. As noted, these are karmic which means there are some past-life issues to work through. You have karma with family members (no surprise there) and various lovers, spouses, etc. And often very close friends. 

Looking at romantic relationships, just because you and ____ were intensely involved in a past-life doesn't mean you'll live happily ever after in this life. Often, the most overwhelming feelings are echoes of past-life difficulties. Of course, sometimes you do create a life together in this life but this is dependent on the nature of the karmic connection, not simply the fact that there is a karmic connection.

See the difference?

Intense karma between you and the person you can never seem to get together with just means that the issues are compelling enough to pull you into each other's orbit (again). 

How do you know if the tumultuous romance will work out, in the end? Stop looking at the charts and just look at how things are going in real life. If you and _______ have been doing the same, frustrating dance for years and they keep pulling away or events always intervene or whatever, that's your answer. If the relationship is going to gel, it will. If it doesn't, it won't. The charts will tell you the whys and hows regarding karma and current life dynamics, but they always, always reflect what's happening in real life. 

I should add here that it's entirely possible to have personal Nodal contacts with a celebrity. If Henry Cavill’s Moon conjoins your South Node does this mean you and he will unite in this life? No.  But you probably feel some pull towards him (that goes beyond his obvious attributes) and yeah maybe in that past life there was a nurturing contact of some sort.

But again, real life - look at it because it has the final say. And now that I'm drifting off on a tangent, I believe that synastry can illustrate one-sided emotional connections (or parasocial relationships);  it's very personal for you but they don't know you exist. Food for another post perhaps. 

This understanding is a gift because it frees you up. The karma between you is what's happening now - the unrequited feelings, the lack of commitment, the endless breakups. In order for these issues to be resolved both parties have to be ready to make some changes. 99% of the time, only one person is willing to do this. You know right away when that's happening and that's kind of liberating as well because you can't control them, you can't march them down their evolutionary path so you might as well turn your attention to something or someone that won't waste your time. 

I know-easier said than done. But this is the truth about karmic connections. To put an optimistic spin on things, if a relationship is meant to work out nothing will stop that from happening.